“Never ASSUME, car when you ASSUME you make an ASS of you and ME” was the quote popularized by Jerry Belson, the author of television, in the early 70s. Making you and me an ASD is the essence of Don Miguel Ruiz`s third deal. He calls for caution and instead encourages us to always ask better questions than accepting, that is. You have to manage the chimpanzee! Well, finally, we come to the fourth agreement: always do your best. In other words. They go all out in the air and oppose these agreements. Never mind! At this point, it`s a pride game. You can`t afford to give in, because you have to admit that you were wrong and the other person was right. You feel a little stupid and you hate feeling stupid. All the sadness and drama you`ve experienced in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally.

Asking Don Miguel Ruiz questions makes things a little clearer and reduces the likelihood that there will be misunderstandings in the future. Asking questions is like a ray of light in a dark cave – it gives you a sense of direction and brings you out of the darkness. Asking questions helps everyone move to the same side, because we all live on assumptions. The third agreement describes the question of whether assumptions are made, how they lead to suffering, and why individuals should not participate in it. Assuming what others think, it can cause stressful and interpersonal conflicts, because the person believes that their acceptance is a representation of the truth. [10] Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the act of acceptance is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear. [9] Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not making assumptions. [1] It has helped me pay attention to times when I feel angry or hurt by a comment someone has made to me. It helped me realize how many assumptions I make every day and how I can prevent it when I catch them. “We tend to make assumptions about everything.

The problem with assumptions is that we think they are the truth. One would swear they are true. We make assumptions about what others do or think – we take it personally – and then we accuse them and react by sending emotional poison with our word.